Etiquette of tea parties
1. Choice of tea
2. Method of brewing
3. Tea drinking vessels
4. Appropriate conversation
5. Appropriate music
6. Choice of cake/biscuits/other finger food.
Most importantly and central to the success of a tea party, is the choice of tea. However this is a specialised subject which i believe is affected by the age and preferences of the guests, time of the party, location and many other factors so I won't be considering it any more in this summary. I believe that tea party tea should only be made in a fine quality tea pot with freshly drawn boiled water and with fresh milk (if required). Tea should really be served in teacups with saucers which will also help to prevent accidents and discomfort from consuming too much tea. Subjects of a contraversial nature should never be discussed at tea parties. Also any subject which is likely to cause embarassment or discomfort to any of your guests is best avoided. Steps should be taken to avoid a tea party becoming too rowdy. If unfortunately your tea party does get out of control it is the duty of the host to remind visitors of correct tea party etiquette. A suitable choice of background music can add a relaxed feel and provide a suitable topic for discussion at a tea party. Some light classical or some french impressionist music is always appropriate. Anything dissonant should never be heard at tea parties. I recommend that choral music should be used with care depending on the musical maturity of your visitors. Biscuits and food are another large area and therefore i will only comment that biscuits or cake should always be offered, preferably off a plate rather than just passing a packet around. Plates should be provided with cake and anything too messy is best left alone.
I realise this is just a short summary and perhaps contraversial. Your comments are welcome